Reset And Ready Ep. 1 of 3

The last week of the month has a special kind of quiet, and it isn’t peace. It’s that moment we realize the plans we made and the life we actually lived do not match, and our reflex is to hit refresh. We slow that reflex down and show how to do a real monthly reset, the kind that keeps what worked, learns from what didn’t, and doesn’t rely on a burst of motivation to survive.

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We lean on the Fresh Start Effect and the idea of temporal landmarks to explain why a new month can feel like a clean slate, then we make it useful by reading the old ledger before closing it. Together we do a quick audit: what protected our needs, what moved a goal forward even by an inch, and what smoothed our work-life rhythm. Then we name the quiet failures that never explode but drain us anyway, like inherited commitments, outdated standards, and tasks we keep carrying because we are fast and reliable.

From there, we build a reset that fits real life and reduces burnout for working women, working moms, leaders, caregivers, and shift workers. We reset the schedule by spotting what we chose versus what we inherited, claim one protected 60 to 90 minute block, reset the mindset by challenging the “I didn’t do enough” story, and reset routines with just two anchors: one morning and one evening. Finally, we prepare for week three with implementation intentions, three specific if-then plans that protect our time, energy, and relationships.

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Transcript

Welcome And Season Kickoff

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Welcome to the Weekday Women, the podcast for full-time working women, balancing careers, kids, calendars, and the occasional cry in the car. With your host, Alyssa Dumont, Coach Coffee D B booty. And you're coming to the women's clothes. What little moments of modern weekday life. Whether you're committing, multi-toxing, or just happening in the laundry room for a little bit of peace. This show is your permission to slow down. You're not doing it wrong. It's just a lot. Now let's get into it.

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Greetings, everyone. Welcome to a brand new season and episode of the Weekday Woman podcast. I'm your host, Alyssa Duhan, founder and CEO of the Weekday Woman. And today we're going to help you reset and get ready for this next leg of the year. And we're going to share some practical reset strategies for your schedule, your mindset, and of course your routines before the season turns upside down, sideways, chaotic, before it gets really busy for us. So here there is a particular kind of quiet that shows up in the last week of a month. And it's not peace per se. It's a sound of realization that happens for a lot of us. The sound of a woman realizing that the plans she made for the six weeks ago and the life she actually lived look like two very different documents, right? And if you are anything like me, the temptation right now is to just skip past that point and just start over, right? Hit refresh and, you know, it's a new month, turn the page, new chapter, new planner, new energy, now go. Right. But I want to give you permission to slow down here for about 45 minutes to an hour because starting over from scratch and resetting are not the same thing. Yes? Starting over throws away some pertinent information. So a reset keeps it. It's almost like if you, you know, turn your computer off and it reboots itself. It doesn't throw everything away. Like you might lose something if you didn't save it, but there are certain things that you know in that operating system that remain. So that's what this is about. Um and this is our reset and ready episode, and we're going to walk you through what it actually takes to close out a month on purpose and step into a new one without dragging in everything that wore you out. If you do have your planner nearby and you also have your journal, I want you to grab that, grab you something to drink in a quiet space because this is going to be work. If you have your the companion guide for this episode, great. I want you to open it. If you don't have it, go over to the weekdaywoman.com website, click on podcast in your navigation bar and find this episode. And I want you to opt in. Make sure you subscribe and opt in, and you will be given the actual companion guide for this episode for free. All right. And if you are driving or you're on shift, um, you're folding laundry or halfway through a 12-hour day, I want you to just listen. You can come back and jot down notes in your journal later.

The Fresh Start Effect Explained

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So let's start with why this even matters, because I don't want you to think, you know, a new month is just a feeling. There's some research behind this. Researchers um at the Wharton School published a study in the journal Management Science in 2014. And it's called the Fresh Start Effect. And these amazing researchers, um, and I do cite them in the companion guide so that you can look further at that. They looked at how often people search the word diet. They looked at gym visits, and they looked at when people signed up to commit to a goal. What they found is that all three of those things spike right after what they called a temporal landmark. I want you to write that down. It's very important because I'm going to use that a lot after this. The start of a new week, the start of a new month, the start of a semester or a birthday or a holiday, these are temporal landmarks. And in other words, this feeling you have right now, like in the last days of July, is not made up. It's not made up, or you know, maybe closing out of a quarter. It's a documented pattern in human behavior. So let me share a little bit of coaching insight right here. A calendar turn creates what researchers call a new mental accounting period. It lets you file the version of you who did not get it all done under last month and step forward as someone with a clean slate or a clean ledger, right? So that calendar turn helps to open that for you. That is real and it's useful. But a clean ledger is only an advantage if and only if you actually read the old one before you close it. So here's the reframe I want to give you. August is not your second chance, right? August is your second January, so to speak. And you already know what happens to most of us in January. There's just this enormous burst of energy and motivation that happens to all of us, and we start setting these really amazing goals. Um, and by maybe week four, between week four and week six, the motivation starts to dwindle. If there's a natural ebb and flow, right, to motivation. And then after a little bit more time, it's almost gone. And the goals are still sitting there looking at us. So we're not doing that today. What we are going to use is the fresh start, and then we're going to build something underneath it so it holds when even the feeling that you need, like the motivation we feel like we have to have, it starts to wear away. Okay. Because the feeling always wears off. It does. That excitement, that zeal. You know, even if we've got anything brand new and you're just like, oh my gosh, this is great. And then after a while, it starts to wear away. That's what I mean. Something like that. Um, that's not a character flaw. That is just how a natural ebb and flow of motivation happens to us as human

The July Audit What Worked

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beings. So let's talk about the July audit right quick because I don't want to take much time. The first move in any real reset is not planning. It's not planning first. I know that's hard for a lot of us, especially me as a planner addict. The first thing I want to do is, okay, let's get the calendar out, let's get the stickers out, let's get all the highlighters out, let's do, you know, and I have I have a bunch of them around me. And it's very important. But that's not the first thing. It is looking. The first move is looking. I want you to think back over this past season. I don't want you to look at the highlight reel. Not here, not now. I want you to look at the actual 31 days. And I want you to answer two questions. The first one's fairly easy. The second one is the one that changes things. Question one, what worked in July? What worked in July? Now, wait a minute. Here's what I mean when I ask what worked. I'm asking what moved the needle on your needs, your goals, and your work-life rhythm. Okay. Let me break those three down real quick because they are not the same, and most of us check only one of them. Okay. You your needs are the baseline. Sleep, food, movement, quiet, connection. Time that belongs to nobody but you. So the question is what actually protected one of those in July? Not what you intended to protect, but what actually held? Your goals are the things you're building toward. The certification, the course, the promotion, the business, the savings, the relationship you're trying to repair. And the question here is what actually moved one of those forward in July? Even by an inch. Even by an inch. Not what you thought about, but what moved. For example, um, maybe that 30-minute walk that you took actually made an impact. And it worked because it gave you more energy. You slept better after that. Um, and then the next day you hydrated further, that actually helped clear your mind and you felt more rejuvenated. So that's an example of something that worked. And your work-life rhythm is the pattern of how your days actually run. When you're on, when you're off, when you're reachable, when you're not. So the question is, what made that rhythm smoother last season? What reduced the friction between one part of your life and another? Only you can answer these questions. Okay. So when I say what worked, I am not asking what looked good. I'm asking what earned its place. What earned its place? Maybe you started leaving your phone in another room at night or when you ate dinner, and maybe you got better sleep, or maybe you had a really wonderful heart-to-heart conversation with your kids and your spouse. That's an example of something that worked. So maybe um you started leaving your phone in another room at night and your sleep got better. There's an that's a need. That is a need. Maybe you blocked one hour on Sunday for study and you actually used it three weeks out of four. That's a goal. Maybe you moved your standing meeting to a different day, and it took some of the pressure off your Monday. That's a rhythm. Any of those counts. And they count even if the rest of the month was a mess. Because you what we we are not grading July. We're harvesting. Okay? We're harvesting it. Whatever it was, I want you to name it out loud because the single most common mistake I see us make in a reset is abandoning the things that were already working in the name of starting over or starting fresh. And I have an entire course on the power of constants in our lives. Okay. And we have been teaching that now for over 15 years, and it's an amazing course, and it's still available. So we have to learn what those are and keep those because they provide something amazing for our infrastructure, right? They provide a structure for stability for us. And so that's why it's amazing when we do hit reset. We don't have to throw everything away. Um, we can just start from knowledge and evidence and wisdom.

Quiet Failures And Slow Leaks

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Question two What quietly did not work? I want to sit, I want you to sit on the word quietly, because loud failures take care of themselves for the most part. If something blew up in July, you already know about it. Like you already know what that is. You've probably ruminated about it, ruminated about it and thought about it too many times. So you're very familiar with those really big loud mishaps. But the quiet failures are different. Quiet failures do not announce themselves, they just kind of sit there, costing you a little at a time, like a slow leak. And because the cost is small in any given week, you never put them on a list, right? You never put them on a list. So let me give you a few examples because once you hear them named out loud, you start seeing your own. Number one, the recurring meeting that has not been relevant to your role in over a year. That's an example of one. You still attended. Um, you have never once asked whether you need to. This is on the calendar, so it's something that you do. Number two, the commitment you said yes to back in like March, that you've been resenting since it happened, and you're still doing it. And because you're the reliable one. Or people say, Well, you did it that first time, like you know, why what's the problem now? And you do it well. I have an a whole episode that I'm gonna share with you about reliability and flexibility and how we have to be really careful of that. You're doing it well, actually. And every time it comes around, something in you goes flat. Because how did this become my thing? Right? And you're thinking, wait a minute, I said yes to this only once. It was just one of those times when I had a little bit of room in my schedule, and now it's something that's by default for me to carry. Number three, the 45 minutes you lose every single evening to a task nobody ever actually asked you to do. You picked picked it up during like a hard stretch. It made sense at the time, and it just never got put back down. Number four, the relationship you have been maintaining entirely by yourself. Yeah. You're the one who texts, you're the one who plans, you're the one who follows up. And this isn't necessarily have to be a romantic relationship. Okay? This could be a friendship, this could be a partnership, this could be, you know, a business connection. And you have been calling that connection or that friendship um or relationship when what it has actually become is a job for you. Trying to keep up with all the things that to keep the connection going. Number five, the standard you are still holding that stop serving anybody. The house at a level nobody in it requires. The email answered in five minutes, nine minutes, when twenty four hours would be fine. Giving it twenty-four hours, some time for you to think about it rather than you having to jump right on it. Maybe the homemade version when the store-bought version was never going to be noticed in the first place. Okay, and I will give you a sixth because this one comes up in almost a lot of our coaching group coaching um conversations that I have. The thing you keep doing yourself um because explaining it would take longer than doing it. The thing you keep doing yourself by yourself, because explaining it would take longer than doing it. That math works one time. It does not work 50 times. Right? You're like, I don't have time to explain it. Let me just do it myself. Let me just do this myself. I don't have time to show you how to do this. I'm just gonna go ahead and take and just do it. After some time, that gets old, right? You carrying this on your own. It gets old. So a little bit of coaching insight right here. Quiet failures survive because they never cost you anything all at once. They cost you a little every week over a long period of time. That's exactly why they slip through a normal review. You're scanning for the bigger flyers. And this is not necessarily a fire, but it is a slow leak, right? So just think about your tire and you're rolling on it. And if there's a slow leak, you don't notice at first. And then ever so often there's a little bit of a change, and you're like, hmm, feels like I feel like a rubbing happening, and all of a sudden, you know, suddenly you're rolling along, and then you start to feel the ride get a little rougher. That's kind of like this. So here's a question I use with my group coaching clients over the years to find them. If August looked exactly like July, what is the one thing you would dread? If it looked exactly like July, what is one thing you you would dread? So whatever came up just now, you don't have to solve it in the next 20 seconds. You just have to stop pretending you don't know what it is. Okay? And I want you to write it down. So if August looked exactly like July, what is the one thing you would dread? And I want you to name it. Okay, now we're gonna talk about naming the drain, where your time and energy are actually going.

Busy Versus Drained Burnout Data

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Um, I'm gonna talk about the difference between being busy and being drained because they're not the same thing. And treating them the same is why so many resets fail for us. Busy is about volume, right? Drained is about the kind of demand. You can have a genuinely full week and finish it tired but intact. And you can have a light week that leaves you hollow because the few things on it required you to manage other people's feelings, absorb other people's disorganization, and hold everything in your head so nobody else had to. Let me put some numbers around that because it's really important. Um, and I want you to I want to share with you because you're actually carrying this. Um, there was Gallup, I think Gallup's fourth quarter 2025 workplace data found that nearly one in three women, 31%, said they feel burned out at work very often or always. For men, that figure was 23%. Among full-time employed workers with children, it was 33% of women compared with 25% of men. And the gap is widest at the top. Averaged across uh across 2022 through 2025, 29% of women in leadership roles reported burnout compared with 19% of men in those same roles. So now here's the part of that same Gallup research that I cannot stop thinking about. Women in that data were more engaged at work than men. 34% of women were engaged compared with 28% of men. Women were also more likely to say they were they're more likely to say they were extremely motivated to pursue career growth. So we're not talking about women who just checked out and they don't want it bad enough. You know, we hear people say that. We're talking about women who are more invested, more engaged, more motivated, and more burned out at the same time. So two things can be true at once, right? Engagement is not protecting you, caring more is not protecting us just because we care more. In some cases, it's the exact thing that's costing us. And then there is what happens after the shift ends. The Bureau of Labor Statistics released its American Time Use Survey, um, those results for 2025. On the days they did household activities, women spent an average of 2.8 hours on those tasks. Men spent uh 2.1 hours. That is roughly 40 extra minutes a day. So on the days they did household activities, women spent an average of 2.8 hours on them, and then men spent 2.1 hours. So call it four and a half hours a week, somewhere in the neighborhood of 240 hours a year. 240 hours. That is six full work weeks of unpaid labor that never shows up. On anyone's calendar and never gets counted when you ask yourself why you're so tired. So here's a little insight. I'm not sharing those numbers so you can feel justified. I'm sharing them so you stop diagnosing a structural problem as a personal failure. If you have been telling yourself you should be able to handle all of this and more, understand what this actually is. You are not bad at managing your time. Most often than not, that is not the problem for most of us. You are managing more of it than you have ever accounted for. You're managing more of it than you've ever accounted

The Drain Inventory Three Categories

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for. So for your reset, I want you to run what I call a drain inventory. Look at your last what two weeks and find three things that took more out of you than it gave back to you. Not three things you dislike, three things where the cost outran the return. Nobody actually needs this. You have just never stopped. That's category one. Category two, things you can hand off. Somebody needs this, but it does not have to be me. It doesn't have to be you, right? And the only reason it's you is that you are fast at it. You're fast at it. That's it. You just jump into it and do it. Category three things you have to keep. Things you have to keep, but you can change the container. The task stays, the timing, the frequency, the format, or the standard changes. So most of us, and well, most women I work with go straight to category three for everything because deleting feels irresponsible and delegating feels like admitting something. Yeah. I want you to force yourself to put at least one item in category one and one item in category two before you allow anything into category three. So things you have to keep. This is sacred space. So force yourself to rethink this so that you can put some things in those other two categories. All right.

Redefining Balance On Your Terms

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Four, balance on your own terms. The definition nobody handed you, and you're gonna hear me say this a lot, you're gonna get sick of it. I need to talk about balance because I know what happens when that word shows up in a well-being conversation. Half of you just kind of braced. Um, because somewhere along the way, balance got sold to you as a 50-50 scale. If you think about the picture of those scales, you know, the ones that they use are law offices and things like that, equal parts work, equal parts life, perfectly level every day. And when you could not make that scale sit still, you concluded that balance was a lie. But I have a different opinion here. It's not a lie. What you were handed was. Okay. Balance itself is a term that I still believe in. A borrowed definition of balance. Balance is not a lie, a borrowed definition of balance is. Balance is in the eye of the beholder, I say this all the time, defined by you and your own unique rhythms of work and life, not by someone else of scale. So, what does it look like for you? You can use the word harmony there, you can use some word balance. What does it look like? And there could be some things for a lot of us who don't work a nine to five, those of us who work two different gigs, or some of us who have a business and have a part-time job, or a full-time job and a side hustle. Some of us who don't have children, but we're caregivers to uh a significant person in our lives, or those of us who have more than one child and we're single parents, balance for a lot of us is very different. It's in the eye of the beholder. You get to define what that is for you. Think about what a borrowed definition actually asks of you. It asks a night shift nurse to structure her recovery around the nine to five schedule. That didn't work, right? It didn't work. It asked a woman in a demanding season of caregiving to feel guilty for a month that is genuinely lopsided because caregiving seasons are lopsided by design. It asked an entrepreneur in a launch week to pretend she is not in a launch week. So none of that is balance. That is compliance with someone else's definition and rhythm, right? Your version of balance might not look level at all on any given Tuesday. It might look like four intense days and one soft one. It might look like a heavy season followed by a deliberately light one. It might look like giving your best hours to your work in September and your best hours to your family in December. Here is the question that gets you to your own definition. And you can use it, you can the word harmony if it makes you feel better and if it's, you know, it's just it works better for you. I just wanted to say that because that's how I feel about it. When you have felt most like yourself, what was true about how your time was arranged? When you felt most like yourself, what was true about how your time was arranged? And when you think about it, when you just felt like your most authentic self. Okay. Not your most productive week, but the week you felt most like you. What was on the calendar? What was not? Who had access to you? When did you sleep? That is information. That is your data. That is the beginning of a definition that belongs to you. And once you have it, you can build toward it instead of endlessly failing at somebody else's version of it. Right? If it doesn't fit you, it doesn't fit you. There's just things that just by design, um, it don't it doesn't fit all of us. And that's okay. Doesn't mean that you, you know, something's wrong with you, or something's wrong with your schedule, or it's not ideal, you know, whatever. It just doesn't fit, and that's all. So here's a three-part reset

Reset Schedule Mindset Routines

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right here. Let's get to it. Now it's time to build, and we're going to reset three things in a specific order because the order matters. Part one, you're gonna reset the schedule. You're gonna open your August calendar and look at what is already on it. Because I know a lot of you probably just starting this already full. Not what you plan to add, what is already there for every recurring item. I want you to ask one question. Did I choose this or did I inherit this? Mamas, default parents out there, those of you who are volunteering for all these things, and you have overreached, right? People have asked you, they've called and texted. Can you do this? Can you do that? And you just started saying yes to a lot of things, and then pretty soon you started carrying this. And now when they see you coming, they expect you to continue to do this. Inherited commitments are the ones that got onto your calendar during a season that has already ended and simply never came off. They are enormously common and almost invisible because they have been there so long, they read as fixed. They read as fixed. And people, when you start to realize that and you go, okay, this is not for me to carry forever. I'm gonna put this down, or I'm gonna put this in someone else's hands. Most often than not, in our minds, we start to think about other people's reaction to it. And or that family member might say, Well, what's the problem now? You're so good at it, or you've been doing this for so long. Listen, it's not about their reaction, it's about what's happening with your rhythm and your balance and what's happening with you mentally. Okay. You're taking back and you're resetting for a reason, and you're reclaiming some things, and it's important for you to point out and define what is what. Okay, then find your protected block. One block, somewhere between 60 and 90 minutes in the week ahead that belongs just to you before anyone else gets to bid on it, not what is left over, chosen first. That protected block, one block, somewhere between 60 and 90 minutes in the week. And and it belongs only to you. I know a lot of you might say, what, girl? Listen, I don't have 30, 60, 90 minutes for me. But I want you to search for it because I know that there is a block of time somewhere in your week where you can find it. And you may have to create it, which means you have to forcibly say no, you have to set some clear boundaries, and you have to create that white space before you schedule anything else. I want to be honest with you about that block. It will feel indulgent for about three weeks. Then it will feel like the only reason the rest of your week functions. Okay. Part two, reset the mindset. Every one of us is carrying a story from last season into this one. And most of the time, that story is some version of um, I did not do enough. I want you to say the actual sentence out loud because unexamined stories and narratives that run in our minds and run the whole show, and examined ones lose most of their power when you say it out loud. They lose their power. So there is a narrative I know that's running and that's been ruminating, and we've probably been repeating in it, and nobody hears it. We've been repeating this in our heads. And I want you to say it out loud and write it down or whatever, so we can start to get rid of it. Then I want you to test it against the evidence, the way you would test a claim a friend made about herself. Was July or last season truly a month where you did not do enough? And you can answer that, no one else can. Or was it a month where the demand exceeded the capacity? And you covered the gap with your own body and your own sleep and your own margin. Those are very different diagnoses, and they lead to completely different Augusts, right? The mindset reset has to come before the routine reset. So before we start doing a thing, we have to think about what we're thinking about. If you build a beautiful new routine on top of the belief that you're behind, you'll not use it as support. You will use it as evidence. One more system you are failing. And we don't want that, right? So part three, reset the routines. Not all of them, but just two. I want you to choose one morning anchor and one evening anchor. That is the entire assignment. That's it. An anchor is a single, small, repeatable action that tells your body which part of the day you are in. It is not a routine in the sense of a you know, 14-step protocol you saw somewhere. It's one thing. And it this works for my shift workers, my 12 hours, my 707 off girlies out there. I want you to establish these anchors. A morning anchor might be five minutes with your planner before you touch your phone. It might be drinking a full glass of water before coffee. It might be walking outside for 90 seconds. Whatever time your morning happens to start, whatever that looks like for you. Because for some of you, morning is at four, quote unquote morning, right? Um, in the afternoon. And that is completely valid. So think about that anchor for you. An evening anchor might be shutting the laptop and physically closing it or closing your door to your office or walking away from your workspace. It might be writing down tomorrow's top three things. So your brain will stop rehearsing them at night, at midnight, actually, when you're supposed to be asleep. It might be one line in a journal, it might be shutting the phone off, it might be reminding, setting those reminders in your reminder app so that you can unload all of this. Two anchors. That is it. And the reason we're keeping it to two is that everything else in your day flexes. Two fixed points give a flexible day a shape. So I don't want to overwhelm you with too many, just two. All right. Let's

Week Three Slump And If Then Plans

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talk about the thing nobody talks about, which is what happens in week three. Week one of a reset is easy. We start to start over, we're motivated, planners clean, week two, mostly fine. Um, things are starting to flow and we're establishing ourselves. And then in week three, somewhere in week four, is where the resets, some of it goes to die.

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Because by that time, the the fresh start feeling is starting to go away. And all you have left is whatever structure you actually built. So let me give you the single most evidence-backed tool I know that I use for surviving this time frame. It's called an implementation intention. In plain language, it is an if-then plan. That's it. And I know you've probably heard of it already. Instead of saying, I'm going to protect my Thursday morning, you say, if it is Thursday at 8, then my phone goes on, do not disturb, and I open my planner. Instead of saying, I'm going to stop working through lunch, you say, if my calendar hits noon, then I stand up and I leave the room. So that's kind of how we're going to fix that. Um, and we're going to share some numbers here. I'm going to go into this other study in the guide so you can read it. Psychologists, um, I think it's Peter Gowitzer and Pascal Sharon. If I said those names wrong, forgive me, um, published a meta-analysis in 2006 that pulled 94 independent tests of this technique, the if-then, across all of them. Forming an if-then plan had a medium to large effect on whether people actually reach their goals compared to simply holding the intention. Same goal, same person, same motivation. The only difference was uh specifying in advance when and where and how. The reason it works is that it takes the decision out of the moment. You're not relying on your Thursday at eight self to have the willpower and the clarity to do it. Your calm, rested Sunday afternoon self already made the call. So Thursday just executes it. Willpower is not a character trait. Let me just say that. It is a resource, and by Thursday of a hard week, yours is spent, most of ours is spent. Any midweek time frame we've worked in any direction. If then planning moves the decision to a moment when the resource is available. So you're not being more disciplined, you are being better scheduled. So write three of them for August, only three. If then. If this happens, then I'll do this. If this comes up, then I'll do that. If I when I'm dropping the kids off and the teacher runs up to the window and says, Remember last year when you volunteered for all these things? We're gonna need you again. Then I'm gonna tell her, I'm not able to do that this year. I'm carrying a lot in the schedule, but I will be able to do this, this, and that. It's kind of doing that. You know what I mean? One that protects your time, one that protects your energy, one that protects your relationships. If-then. Okay? Three if-thens. One that protects your time, one that protects your energy, one that protects your relationships, and make them so specific that a stranger reading them would know exactly what to do. Be very specific. Don't be general, don't be vague. Well, if I have a little time, if this happens, I might do no specific. Specific. So let's bring

Key Takeaways And Companion Guide

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this home. August, this new season, whatever you're in, will arrive whether you're ready or not. That part is not up to us, right? What is up to us is whether it arrives to a woman who is reacting to it or a woman who decided a few things ahead of time. So here's what I want you to walk away with. One, you're not starting over, you are carrying forward what worked and setting down what did not. And both of those are decisions, not accidents. So you do this on purpose. Two, you name the quiet drain. The loud problems already have your attention, the quiet ones are the ones taking the hours. Three, balance is yours to define. It is the eye, is in the eye of the beholder. Even if you don't believe in balance, that's okay. That's still okay. Like everybody's very different. Whatever works for you, works for you. It's in the eye of the beholder, and in the eye of the beholder, shaped by your rhythms, your unique rhythms of your life and your work, and nobody hands you the definition. You write it now. You get to write it for yourself. What does it mean when you have a harmonious life or a balanced life? Excuse me. What does that look like for you? And what does it mean to you? You define that. Number four, two anchors and three if-then plans will outperform a complete life overhaul every time. So you don't have to completely start over and do a whole overhaul. You just want to establish these anchors in the morning, in the evening, and set these if-then plans in place. Small and specific beats big and vague. That is not a motivational saying. That is what the research keeps showing. And five, if this season is heavy, whether it's August or new season, you're listening to this, that does not mean the reset failed. It means you are a woman with a full life who now has a plan for it instead of a hope about it. The companion reset and ready guide is linked wherever you found this episode. It will walk you through the July audit, the drain inventory, your own definition of balance, your two anchors, and your three if-then plans with room to write it all down. Because writing it down is not decoration. It is definitely part of making the plan and making it real. Okay. So if this has helped you at all, please subscribe if you have not. Re-share it with another sister who's out there trying to figure this out on her own. Um, if you were driving, you didn't get a chance to write things down and want you to come back. Pause and reflect and you know, listen in again and go ahead and set those assignments up in your journal. Um, make sure you download the companion guide. These really are important. I don't want you to have to uh reinvent the will here. You don't have to do this on your own. We have it already established for you, along with the episode. Um segments and the cited sources for those statistics that I share. Okay. We also have some prompts in there, some coaching prompts. I never leave you without them. Always try to leave you with something for your head, your heart, and your hand. So it's very important for you to grab this, print it, and write it with your hand. I don't want you to type, I want you to write. So my writer-downers out there, I know people like, what? Do what works for you, honestly. But I would recommend that you write it down. And each one of these exercises is in there. So you don't have to worry about um having to constantly come back to the audio unless you want to, which is great. You can listen to it again simultaneously while you flip through the pages. And I believe the guide is about 14 pages that long. Um, so you get to download this. It's an amazing resource, and it's only going to be available for a short period of time before we put it in the vault for our members, our paid members. So if you're interested in joining um our membership-based program, you go over to theweekdaywoman.com, opt-in, get on the list so that when we open the doors, you get an email immediately and all the information on how you can join this upcoming season. Um, and there may be some changes to our um podcast schedule, but uh our Fridays are still going to be here. So you'll be able to click play, and there's gonna be something here. We may just have more. That's all. We may be um recording more bonus episodes uh throughout the week and not just Friday. So big, big surprise there. All right. I want to say thank you so much for all of you who have subscribed. For those of you who are new listeners, welcome. I can't wait to hear from you and hear how some of this is working for you. I have so many devoted um listeners, fans, uh, clients, people we've worked with along pre-COVID, post-COVID time, who are coming back to us this season, and they're so excited to share, you know, how some of our tools and resources have worked for them. Uh, find us on Facebook. We're still there, you guys. We're still there. Um, the weekday woman. And we are also on Instagram, but we're under you can find the weekday one, but um it may be under weekday woman HQ. So just go ahead and Google us. And if you can't find us there, just go straight to the website theweekdaywoman.com. And you'll find our social links and everything in between right then and there. Okay. Thank you for listening. I can't wait to hear from you. I can't wait to come alongside you in this season to help you through wherever you're headed. Um, stay encouraged. And as always, remember to give yourself what you need so that you can continue to move forward. All right. Put you first, it's not being selfish. Okay. Um, caring for yourself, caring for your time and your energy. It's absolutely imperative for our health and just for our general success moving forward in our work and in our lives. Okay. So I care about you. I can't wait to work with you. I can't wait to hear from you, and I can't wait for you guys to join us in the membership part of the weekday woman. See you soon in the next episode. Remember, um, we do have a uh back to balance series that's going to start that may drop throughout the week. And um, we're gonna also announce all of that on our social platforms and of course on our blog. So see you then. Have a good day.

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That's a wrap on the weekday woman. The podcast that knows your burnout isn't always a you problem. It's an everyone expects you to be, do and take care of everything problem. If today's episode gave you life, perspective, or just permission to hit reset after a busy week, then do your girl a favor and share it. Subscribe, leave a review, and come hang out with us at theweekdaywoman.com because your weekday life should work for you, not against you. Until next time, prioritize your peace, protect your energy, and remember, you're not tired because you're weak. You're tired because you're doing the absolute most. Thanks again for tuning in, and we'll catch you in the next episode of the weekday woman.